Moms of teenagers can relate to Estella Havisham (not her real name). The mom of a 13-year-old was tired of her son's disregard for her rules. He lied about doing his homework, told his mom she wasn't his boss, and didn't help much around the house.
So the single mom took action. She cleared his room of some of his favorite items (his electronics, a lamp, his favorite comforter) and left him a letter.
Hey Folks! If you are even the least bit curious about the background of this letter, here is a link to what lead up to...Posted by Heidi Johnson on Wednesday, September 2, 2015
Hey Folks! If you are even the least bit curious about the background of this letter, here is a link to what lead up to...
The gist: If he wanted to be independent, then he'd have to start acting like a roommate and pony up his share of the costs for the services he used: electricity, WiFi, food, and rent. And he'd have to do chores. If not, then he'd have to pay his mom to take over said chores. On the other hand, "If you decide you would rather be MY CHILD again instead of a roommate, we can negotiate terms," she wrote.
Her son initially crumpled the note and stormed out of the apartment, Havisham wrote in an update to her original Facebook post. But then he apologized, and asked what he could do to earn his stuff back.
Have things changed since the letter? As she wrote in an update: "It is still a work in progress. This incident ... has made a difference though. When I ask him to do something, he does it."
Havisham has been criticized for her parenting style, but as she has explained on Facebook, her intention was never to get her son to pay rent or expenses; it was to help him gain an appreciation of what things cost--and how he could learn to help his mom.
That sounds like pretty good parenting to us.
via Huffington Post
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