Courtesy of Matt Silver
In-law relationships are notoriously fraught, but a fortunate few marry into families that nurture the spouse as if they were their own child. Matt Silver is one of the lucky ones. When he wed the love of his life, Lauren, he became son-in-law to a special dad, Elliot Jacobs.
When Elliot's life was cut short in May 2016, Matt, a father of 3, himself, took to Facebook to share why his father-in-law was so special. And it has people who've never even met Elliot sharing the post.
"He was one of the most thoughtful, generous, and smiliest people I’ve ever known," Matt begins. "I could never say everything about what he meant to me in a single Facebook post, but here are the things I’ll miss the most...
• You’d call ahead before visiting us to make sure we had dishes in the sink and laundry that needed to be folded so you had an excuse to give us a hand.
• Before we visited you, you’d send an entire series of pamphlets (by mail and email) detailing everything we’d be doing once we arrived.
• You’d stand right outside security at the airport, waiting to begin waving wildly when you saw us.
• You’d make reservations to every dinner, event, and activity, even though we couldn’t possibly make them all.
• Your insightful (and discerning) use of 2 adjectives to describe anyone and everyone (I was labeled interesting and interested)."
The post continues:
"I NEVER REALIZED HOW MUCH I’D MISS:
• Your infinite string of sneezes that inevitably followed a bout of eating too much.
• Your colorful array of Stonebridge polos.
• Your way-too-personal questions.
• Your cologne that lingered about a week after you left our house.
• Seeing each other in the morning always warranted a hug.
THE LESSONS YOU TAUGHT ME:
• When corn on the cob is taken off the cob, it’s just called corn.
• It’s just not real oatmeal unless it’s slow-cooked and steel-cut.
• Always wear an unfashionable reflective vest when walking around at night.
• A banana is sweeter when mashed.
• Cinnamon is a cholesterol buster.
• Microwaving a s’more for precisely 17 seconds will yield the best consistency.
• There’s always a way to sneak into the concierge lounge.
BUT WHAT I’LL MISS MOST OF ALL:
Is how often you said you were proud of me, which is something everyone needs in their life. You’ll be missed, Elliot. Always."
Our condolences go out to the Jacobs family--and everyone else who knew and loved Elliot.