"What is the secret to a lasting marriage?" is a question we've all wondered to ourselves after an argument with a spouse. What does it take to stay together, happily married, for 35, 50, or 75 years? John and Evie Kasper have the answer.
The pair met in 1932 when they were both 10 years old. Evie had just moved into John's neighborhood in the Twin Cities area in Minnesota, and their early memories together are marked by adorable childish antics.
"He was a naughty boy. He used to throw spitballs at me," Evie said in a video her granddaughter recorded about the secret to their long-lasting marriage. "But I didn't know that was a way of showing attention."
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Fortunately, they've both done their fair share of growing—they're both 95 this year—and John has more mature ways of telling his wife how much he's still in love with her.
“He’s always after my body. I’m 89 years old, and he says, ‘You turn me on!’” Evie said in another one of her granddaughter's videos that's a few years old now.
So what's the biggest piece of advice that Evie and John shared about maintaining a relationship?
“The important thing in a marriage is to be nice to each other. … You gotta make each other laugh,” she said. “We always kiss goodnight. … We never go to bed carrying a grudge against the other one. If it’s really a focal point we sit alongside each other and talk it out.”
Of course, in the midst of a heated argument, that theory is easier said than done. Fortunately, things don't have to escalate because saying one word during an argument will immediately diffuse the situation, researchers say.
Evie and John's granddaughter has her own theories regarding the success of her grandparent's union.
“They both have a great sense of humor,” she told the Minneapolis Star Tribune. “That’s got to have a huge impact on the success of a marriage.”
How sweet! We've got our money on John and Evie staying together for at least another 75.