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This 7-Year-Old Had The Most Beautiful Response to His Mom’s Explanation About Infertility

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Shelby Eckard, known as PCOS Support girl to her 55,000 Instagram followers, began to cry when she received a text message showing a photo of a friend’s ultrasound.

Though she now has two beautiful children, Shelby received her polycystic ovarian syndrome diagnosis following the birth of her first son, meaning that the journey to welcoming him a sibling was far from easy.

Now, after being told she has secondary infertility, Shelby knows first-hand the pain and anguish associated with fertility struggles, which is why her friend’s picture hit so close to home.

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When her eldest son walked into see his mother upset, he asked why she was crying before spotting the picture on her screen. Too early for the “where do babies come from” talk, she simply told him that the blurry image showed a baby.

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This morning, my 7 year old son walked in on me crying at my desk. He asked, "momma, why are you crying?" He then caught glimpse of my screen, where I was looking at a text sent from my girlfriend, who sent an ultrasound picture of her baby. He asked, "what is that? " I explained it was a baby, trying hard not to go any further because I'm not ready for a "where babies come from discussion." He said, "but momma- I don't understand. Why are you crying? Babies are awesome." This, spawned a whole flood of tears I held back behind burning eyes. How do you explain to a 7 year old the emotions and challenges of infertility. I mustered up my strong mom voice and told him, "yes, babies ARE awesome. They make hearts happy and homes feel full and are the greatest present a person can ever get. Having a child is like looking forward to a birthday. You know the time for it is coming. And for some reason, for some, those 'baby days' don't come when they're supposed to. Or ever. And it's like waiting on a present and not knowing if you'll ever get it. And it can make you sad. If you were looking forward to your birthday, and it didn't come, you'd be sad, right? And you'd be really happy when you finally got your birthday present. Mommy had to wait for your baby sister, and it was really hard. But she's pretty awesome, right? And she was totally worth the wait. So mommy is happy when she sees her friends happy. And that's why she works hard to help those women feel happy each day." Later on, I couldn't find my son. I finally walked into my bedroom, and there he was sitting on my floor, crayolas everywhere, doodling and writing. I asked him, " what are you doing, buggy?" He said, "I want those ladies to be happy, too. I want them to get their presents. I can't give them a baby. And I thought maybe they can borrow my sister for a little, but I can't drive and I'd miss her. So I am drawing them pictures as presents. Maybe you can send them to them for me? When they're sad? I don't want them to give up. I want them to be happy." There's moments when I think I'm failing as a momma, but these moments? I know I'm not doing so bad. 🌈💕 #goodgoesround

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“But momma — I don’t understand. Why are you crying? Babies are awesome,” he replied according to Shelby’s lengthy Instagram post.

It was a question she wasn’t quite sure how to answer. “How do you explain to a seven-year-old the emotions and challenges of infertility?” she tells.

“I mustered up my strong mom voice and told him, ‘Yes, babies ARE awesome. They make hearts happy and homes feel full and are the greatest present a person can ever get. Having a child is like looking forward to a birthday. You know the time for it is coming. And for some reason, for some, those ‘baby days’ don’t come when they’re supposed to. Or ever,’” she says.

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Later that day, Shelby couldn’t find her son. She eventually tracked him down where he sat on the floor, surrounded by crayons.

When she asked what he was doing, he replied: “I want those ladies to be happy, too. I want them to get their presents. I can’t give them a baby. And I thought maybe they can borrow my sister for a little, but I can’t drive and I’d miss her. So I am drawing them pictures as presents. Maybe you can send them to them for me? When they’re sad? I don’t want them to give up. I want them to be happy.”

She finishes her post on a note of pride: “There’s moments when I think I’m failing as a momma, but these moments? I know I’m not doing so bad.”

What a truly touching story.

This post was written by Katie Skelly. For more, check out our sister site Woman’s Day.

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