Of all the ways to meet someone new, there seems to be nothing people dread more than being set up on a blind date. All it takes is one bad match for you to lose any and all confidence in your friends’ opinions on who might make a good companion for you. However, the same can certainly be said for popular online dating options, too. In fact, it’s even more likely that someone’s dating profile doesn’t actually add up to reality — including your own. Yet it’s become more common than ever for singles of all ages to turn back to their dating sites and apps to try again.
Obviously, it’s easier to blame an anonymous set of data for getting things wrong than your own friends. That said, your friends also know you better than an algorithm ever could, so shouldn’t you at least let them try introducing you to a potential new companion? After all, the alternative is to simply stay single. Keep reading to see even more reasons why you should be more open to having your friends set you up on a date.
1. Your friends know you better than yourself
As hard as it might seem to admit, a 2011 article from Current Directions in Psychological Science claimed that our friends have a better understanding of our likes, dislikes, and personality quirks than we ever do. It makes sense — whether we’re too hard or easy on ourselves, we don’t have quite the same perspective. Our friends probably do have a more realistic view of us than we’d like to believe. Your friend will also be able to give you more details about you date than an online profile would.
2. You know your friend approves of your date
There’s nothing worse than introducing your friends to a romantic partner only to have them end up hating each other. That chance diminishes significantly when you already know your friend approves of the person they’ve set you up with. Of course, that does depend on how close you are with the friend you allow to arrange the blind date. Chances are, though, your friend admires you enough to make sure the person they choose meets the highest standards.
3. You’ll already have something in common with your date
Having your friend as a buffer right from the start of your date will help break the ice and create a common ground for you both. You might even be able to bond while joking about how silly your friend was for thinking you should be set up together before realizing you’re totally hitting it off. Even if it’s not a perfect love match, you can still end things on good terms.
You might be afraid of hurting your friend’s feelings when things don’t work out, but they’re only looking out for your best interest, so they’ll probably just set their sights on finding the next potential partner for you to meet. As long as you’re honest and communicate with compassion, your friendships will be just fine. Plus, if things do end up working out, the story will make for a great speech at your wedding!