When Kathy and Brandon Gunn were married nine years ago, they received a wedding gift from Kathy's Great-Aunt Alison. It was nicely wrapped up with a bow, but it came with a card with a mysterious message: "Do not open until your first disagreement."
The young couple was too afraid to open the box, but they kept it throughout their three moves and their kids' births. It sat gathering dust on a closet shelf. "I honestly think that we both avoided turning to the box, because it would have symbolized our failure," Kathy wrote in a Love What Matters post. "To us, it would have meant that we didn’t have what it takes to make our marriage work. So, it forced us to reassess situations. Was it really time to open the box? What if this isn’t our worst fight?"
They really thought that wedding present held the key to a successful relationship. After all, their great-aunt and uncle had been together for 50 years. And in a way it did. Because by the time the Gunns opened the box--nine years later--they'd become teammates and partners. They'd learned tolerance, patience, and compromise. And they'd learned the biggest secret to a good marriage: That the two of them held the key to happiness.
You can see the detailed instructions for defusing the argument below. We agree: wine, flowers, and pizza can go a long way toward reconciliation. So can laughter--as you'll see when you swipe through the funniest wedding photobombs in the gallery below this story.