We’ve all heard that opposites attract. But what happens in a relationship with two people who are nearly the same? With the same strengths, the same weaknesses, the same values and needs, will they be two peas in a pod, or are they doomed from the start? When it comes to social-butterfly-beauty-queen of the zodiac, Libra and Libra compatibility in love and friendship, the answer is complicated. Whether you’re a Libra hoping to make a new Libra friend or make it past the honeymoon stage of a Libra love affair, keep reading – we’ll walk you through everything you need to know about Libra-Libra relationships.
What’s the deal with Libras?
Born between September 23 and October 22, Libras are represented by a set of scales, which provides a great starting point for understanding what makes this sign tick. Libras seek out harmony and balance in all aspects of their life, from the material possessions they surround themselves with to the relationships they invest so much time in. They don’t abide by chaos, mess or confusion, and will clean up both sticky messes in the kitchen and sticky situationships with others as fast as possible.
This desire for symmetry and beauty can manifest in a variety of ways, from a passion for classical art to a dedication to maintaining their weekly nail routine. Some may find this trait materialistic or shallow. But other Libras understand the underlying point– beautiful things can add meaning and joy to life just as much as more “serious” hobbies or interests.
Plus, a beautiful life is just plain old fun. Spend some time in the home of a Libra – likely decked out with sumptuous rugs, beautiful hand-poured candles and all manner of interesting and beautiful art – and you’ll understand why these air signs dedicate so much energy to prettifying themselves and their space. When you have a passion for beauty and the taste to match, why not go all-out?
Speaking of air signs. If Gemini tends to be fresh-faced and naive, and Aquarius a classic old soul, Libras are right in the middle: feeling everything vibrantly, trying to have it all. They want to have their cake AND eat it too, but also share it with everyone around them.
Often this means that Libras will find themselves stretched thin, or forced to choose between their needs and the desires of those around them. In fact, being people-pleasers is one of Libra’s most infamous traits. When achieving harmony is your #1 priority, interpersonal conflict – even conflict as shallow as disagreeing over where to go to dinner – can feel devastating. Learning to put aside their people-pleasing tendencies and stick up for themselves is a perpetual journey for Libras.
Taken altogether, Libra’s collection of traits makes for a sparkling personality clearly ruled by Venus, goddess of love, beauty, wealth and fortune. For some signs (looking at you, Leo and Gemini) this personality spells a match made in heaven. For others (ahem, Capricorn) this relationship is more likely to go up in flames. But what about Libras with other Libras?
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Libra and Libra compatibility in friendship
Thanks to their shared love of all things beautiful and harmonious, Libras tend to be drawn to each other right from the start. There’s probably a 50% chance any given Libra friendship started when one complimented the other on her shade of lipstick, her vintage bag, her handmade fall poncho. Right away they’ll be entranced by the other’s sense of style and shared values of romance, serenity and harmony.
In other signs – say, a Scorpio-Scorpio pairing or two Cancers – this much similarity might lead to conflicts. It can be hard to get along with someone exactly like yourself! But in Libra-Libra friendships, those shared similarities are the glue of a successful relationship. It’s easy to get along when both friends are seeking balance and peace from their friendship.
What does this actually look like? It means both friends arriving to a dinner party with the same show-stopping bouquet for the host. It means effortless gift-giving – all Libra #1 has to do is think about what hand-poured candles and art books are on her wishlist, and gift those items to Libra #2. It means endless exciting brainstorming sessions about the next trip you’ll take together, what you’ll wear to the next gallery opening, the next birthday party you’ll plan.
Of course, it also means shared disappointment when not all of these ideas come to fruition – the follow-through is not a Libra strength. It also means that when disagreements do occur, they tend to quietly boil beneath the surface for months before finally culminating in an explosive fight. Libras are people-pleasers, remember? Double the Libra means double the passive-aggression.
Libra and Libra compatibility in love
If you’ve ever watched a Libra float through a social situation on a current of their own tranquility, it shouldn’t surprise you to learn these social butterflies are air signs. They love relationships, love being social, and love love. That’s why – at first – a Libra-Libra romance can feel like a total whirlwind. It’s easy for the happy couple to get swept up in a current of their own excitement for each other – like here, at last, is the fairytale romance I’ve been waiting for!
The positive feedback loop of attraction and exhilaration can also extend into the bedroom, where Libras will find a partner who shares many of their desires. You know that classic romantic fantasy of walking into the bedroom to find your partner has lit dozens of candles and scattered rose petals all over the bed? In a Libra-Libra relationship, odds are high that exact scenario will happen at least once.
But despite their initial magic and magnetism, this pairing isn’t always destined for success. Passive-aggressive communication tends to be a problem in any Libra duo, and that trait is only amplified in a romantic relationship, where the stakes are higher. Tiny conflicts can simmer and build up over time until they become truly nasty, relationship-ending fights.
So what’s a Libra to do? If they truly want to make their relationship work in the long run, it’s paramount that each individual work on their own communication skills before addressing their problems as a couple. 90% of the time the issue can be solved through honest, vulnerable conversations. And hey, we get it – those types of conversations are hard! But they’re vital to the long-term success of a Libra-Libra pairing.
The bottom line: can a Libra and a Libra co-exist in harmony?
Like most things in astrology, the truth is complex. Two Libras might share a lot of core values and interests, but their similar traits could also spell disaster if they aren’t approached the right way.
All you can do is get to know your fellow Libras in real life before making assumptions about them. You never know – you just might end up with a new best friend.
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