If you were born between February 19 and March 20, you’re a Pisces. This sun sign is symbolized by two fish swimming in opposite directions, representing the dual nature of these complicated water signs. A Pisces’ attention constantly fluctuates between fantasy and reality, the realm of their imagination and the realm of real life… which can make it a little tricky for other signs to interpret what’s happening upstairs. If you find yourself constantly guessing what your Pisces bestie or lover is thinking and feeling, or you want to assess your romantic compatibility, you’ve come to the right place. We’ll walk you through everything you need to know about spicy Pisces below.
Pisces are ruled by Neptune.
The first thing you need to know is that a Pisces man or woman is ruled by Neptune, the planet that governs creativity, imagination, and dreams. The most positive aspect of this is that Pisces women are often intensely creative, using their artistic skills to satisfy their boundless imaginations. Think of your most artistic friend or loved one — whether she’s a painter, pianist, or writer, chances are that she’s also a Piscean.
On the other hand, Neptune can also contribute to a desire for escapism and illusion. The Pisces personality often feels that she’s never fully satisfied in life, except for in moments of transition. This can also apply to a Pisces woman in love. She may crave the feeling of change — to find a soulmate, or a new city to call home — because deep down, she longs to escape the mundanity of her identity and her life. Neptune is like the night sky: vast, mysterious, and equally enchanting and terrifying. This zodiac sign’s ruling planet makes them both a creative pioneer and a fortress, and within that fortress they sometimes lock away the rational parts of their brain and hold themselves captive to their emotions and daydreams.
Pisces are sensitive.
Speaking of emotions, Pisces are water signs, meaning they live deep within their feelings. They tend to be very in touch with their subconscious, paying much more attention to the subtle meanings of their dreams and those feelings we can’t quite name than the obvious things right in front of them.
This sensitivity can be great — no one will be better able to understand your complex or indefinable feelings, likes, and dislikes than your Pisces pal. They won’t just be a shoulder to cry on; they are so empathetic, they’ll actually feel what you’re feeling. However, it’s also all too easy for them to swim with the metaphoric fishes and get lost in the depths of their own feelings. Being so in touch with your feelings is both a blessing and a curse — so this zodiac sign definitely requires some maintenance and self-care in order to manage.
If you’re a friend of a Pisces hoping to learn how to connect with and understand her when she’s lost in her feelings, try practicing active listening. Rather than focusing on providing solutions (that may not be able to fully address what she’s going through), just provide an attentive ear. It’s also important to practice empathy and patience around your Pisces friends; sometimes they will get overwhelmed by the simplest (and seemingly silliest) things, and it makes a world of difference to have a friend nearby who isn’t going to judge them for having a ridiculous breakdown. Comfort and support your fishy friend instead.
Pisces are adaptable.
Pisces is a mutable sign, meaning it’s fairly easy for them to adapt to their surroundings. They don’t get too phased by changes in expectations, whether they be related to career, environment, or even relationships. While flexibility and resiliency are strengths, it’s also easy to come off as flippant or uncaring to outsiders, especially a Taurus or Libra.
If you’re a Pisces who constantly gets mistaken for being cold or uninvested in a relationship or job, it can help to be more expressive in letting others know how you feel. Rather than simply letting your emotions speak for themselves, try putting words to them, even if it’s a simple, “I don’t really know what I’m feeling right now, but it’s overwhelming.” Communicating in this way can help chip away at the mistaken notion that you’re uncaring when change does happen, and you’re totally cool with it. Not everyone can be as flexible and adaptable as a Pisces — and that’s okay! But it’s important to be able to explain how you feel to others so that they don’t take your chill mutability the wrong way.
Pisces are clairvoyant.
If your Pisces girlfriend or wife has an uncanny ability to predict the future, interpret your daily horoscope and tarot cards, or even sense spirits, don’t be surprised. Pisces are deeply sensitive to the spiritual and collective unconscious, which can manifest in many ways. Spookily-accurate dreams, seeing ghosts, or seemingly being able to read your mind and figure out exactly what you’re thinking are all surprisingly normal traits for these water signs.
Like the ocean, Pisces are tapped into a vast and murky network of subconscious feelings. Sometimes this means they experience a depth of emotion that others don’t. Other times, this means they’re downright clairvoyant or psychic. Every Pisces is a little bit different — and a little bit magical.
Pisces are kind and gentle.
Although their sometimes-overwhelming emotions can make Pisces withdrawn and introverted, don’t mistake that for aloofness or coldness. Pisces are known for being some of the kindest and gentlest people around, and they make great friends. If you know an unusually compassionate woman, chances are good that she’s a Pisces. If you’re having a tough day, need some love, or merely want someone to wipe your tears away, go to a Pisces. She’s probably going to make you feel better than nearly any other sign can.
An important thing to remember is that Pisces need to love themselves, too — even when they’re committed to loving others (take a cue from Leo if you’re having trouble doing this!). Kindness goes a long way in a Pisces’ heart, so don’t forget that the friend who constantly sends you flowers, sweet notes in the mail, or baked goods could use some treats herself every once in a while.
Pisces see life through rose-colored glasses.
The last important thing to know about the Pisces women in your life is that, as dreamers and nurturers, it can be easy for them to get their heads stuck in the clouds. Oftentimes they’re so caught up in the landscape of their imagination that they’ll struggle to see the world, and their relationships, for what they are — especially when things aren’t going so well. In other words, it’s all too easy for a Pisces to see the world through rose-colored glasses.
Sometimes this is okay: Who doesn’t want a more positive take on life despite all of the horrible news out there? But other times, this causes Pisces to be annoyingly unrealistic in their expectations of work, relationships, and themselves. Being pragmatic might be less fun, but it’s important to be a functional adult. That’s one lesson that many Pisces could stand to learn.
If you don’t know any Pisces women in real life, you can get an idea of what these dreamy water signs are like by paying attention to trending Pisces celebrities; these include Olivia Wilde, Drew Barrymore, Eva Mendes, and Cindy Crawford. You might notice a disproportionate amount of celebrities are Pisces signs — and that’s because Pisces naturally gravitate toward art forms that allow them to tap into their creativity such as music, theater, and fashion. These celebs pour all of their talent and time into their art form and frequently reach the pinnacle of success within their chosen career, thanks to their Neptune-given creative drive.
Pisces Women: Deep Feelers
Watery Pisces isn’t always the easiest zodiac sign to get along with — like Capricorn or Aquarius, they’re not always agreeable, and might hold a grudge from time to time. They can additionally be overly sensitive, aloof, and occasionally unrealistic in how they see the world. But at their best, these fish are also deeply empathetic friends, talented artists, and mystical types who are crazily in touch with their subconscious. In other words, they have a lot to give the world. So, if you’re a Pisces — or if you know a Pisces woman — consider yourself lucky.