So, you want to know if the perfectionist earth sign Virgo and the sensitive water sign Cancer are compatible. Maybe you’re a Crab with a new Virgo coworker in the office, or perhaps your Virgo daughter has just started dating a Cancer — and you want to know if they’ll be able to make it work. No matter the reason, you’ve come to the right place for a deep dive on Virgo and Cancer compatibility. Keep reading for everything you need to know about these two signs in love and friendship.
All About Virgos
If you’re the Cancer in this scenario, you’re likely curious about your newfound Virgo friend (or possible paramour). Virgos (born between August 23 and September 22) are earth signs who are deeply rooted in the material world. They tend to be logical, detail-oriented, and consistent in everything they do, whether in their relationships or at work. A Virgo man or woman rules the digestive system, which means these signs are super attuned to all of the moving parts that make up a whole. Meticulous in their attention to detail and high level of precision, they make great engineers, managers, and translators.
Another way to put it: Virgos are all about processing time. In the workplace, that might mean taking their time to make decisions or to problem-solve piece by piece. In relationships, it means that they’re typically slow to jump to conclusions or get angry, and would rather listen to their partner’s take on a situation before making a decision or deciding how to feel. Virgos’ love of problem-solving comes from their innate desire to help (which also makes them great companions).
As earth signs, Virgos want to offer practical aid, like cleaning up a messy house for their partner or running errands for a friend. Virgos are often the first to drop off a casserole at the house of a grieving pal and the last to turn to more spiritual or metaphysical means of help, such as seeing a medium for guidance.
All About Cancers
What about the other half of this duo? Emotional Cancers (born between June 22 and July 22) are water signs, meaning they live deeply in their emotions and spend a lot of time in their own heads. Cancers might be known as the crybabies of the zodiac (this means frequent mood swings and struggles with insecurities), but their deeply-felt emotions also make these Crabs extremely empathetic friends and great listeners. Sensitive Cancer women will be the first ones to whip out the box of Kleenex in the movie theater and also the first ones to hold your hand and provide a shoulder to cry on when something goes wrong.
Because Cancers spend so much time dwelling in their subconscious and imagination, they are frequently artistic and can clash with those who are not. Think about that friend of yours who’s constantly scribbling in a journal, going to a pottery class, or picking up a new musical instrument. Chances are, she’s a Cancer. Their inner and emotional lives are so rich that expressing themselves through art is one of the only ways Cancers know to work through and deal with their turbulent feelings.
The downside of this is that Cancers can often be dreamy, overly emotional, or unrealistic in their expectations of life and love. Few signs have their head in the clouds more than these summer birthday water signs. This can become a problem when it gets in the way of setting realistic goals, finding practical solutions to problems, or just generally remaining grounded and down-to-earth. Luckily, all this Cancerian dreaminess can be balanced out by relying on the practicality of an earth sign companion — and who better than a Virgo?
Cancer and Virgo Compatibility: Friendship
Earth signs (like Virgo) and water signs (like Cancer) tend to complement each other, which already sets this duo up for success. Both Virgo and Cancer love to seek security and trust in their closest loved ones, and sharing this important value helps create a solid foundation to build on. When Cancers become too bogged down by their subconscious, lost in their expectations, dreams, or anxieties, they can rely on rock-solid Virgo to pull them back to reality. And when Virgo becomes overwhelmed by their own plans or desires, there’s no better listening ear or shoulder to cry on than a Cancer, cementing the strong bond between these two signs.
Oftentimes Cancers and Virgo buds will have different approaches to problem-solving. Virgos, like fellow earth signs Capricorns and Taurus, like to tackle problems head-on with practical and grounded solutions and plenty of hard work. They spend less time in the feelings and processing phase of problem-solving and more time in the solutions-oriented phase. On the other hand, Cancers, like fellow watery signs Scorpio or Pisces, need a lot of time to process their feelings before they’re ready to get into practical problem-solving mode. Their processing might take the form of journaling, discussing things with a friend, or even just sitting back and waiting for the feelings to work themselves out organically.
It can therefore be frustrating for this pair to work around each others’ preferred method of problem-solving, especially when it comes to conflict resolution within the friendship. For Cancers, focus on expressing yourself honestly to your Virgo friend. Don’t be afraid of being direct or “too” blunt — chances are, they’ll appreciate the honesty more than you think. And for all the Virgos out there: Have patience with your Cancer besties. They need time to work through their emotions, oftentimes even more than you may think reasonable. That’s just how Crabs operate, and a little patience and empathy for this different mode of dealing with life will go a long way.
Cancer and Virgo Compatibility: Love
Okay, we’ve covered friendship — what about Virgo and Cancer compatibility when it comes to love? Turns out, there’s a lot of common ground and shared traits to provide the foundation for a truly passionate and meaningful partnership. Let’s talk about how these two can be soulmates.
Initially, Cancer men and Virgo women (or vice versa) may find themselves bonding over shared values, including spending time at home, the simple pleasures in life, and the importance of close friends and family. Both of these signs tend to be a bit reserved and shy at first, but once they open up and start sharing details about their hobbies and home life, they’ll likely fall fast for each other. Trust is super important to both the water sign and the earth sign, and recognizing their shared values will help them build a sense of mutual trust and respect. It can also help foster the chemistry and connection that’ll be important for sparks in the bedroom. It may take these two a little longer than other signs to connect and lean into each other fully — but once they do, they are likely to become nearly inseparable.
As with friendship, Cancers and Virgos can encounter communication problems in their romantic relationships. They tend to communicate and deal with their problems in different ways, which may be hard for the other to understand at first: The Cancer will be wondering why their Virgo counterpart is being so harsh, while Virgo might get frustrated at how the Cancer keeps beating around the bush. This initial difficulty can be worked past, however, with a little extra time and effort. In fact, being forced to focus on communication and empathy in this way may ultimately strengthen the connection between the two signs. Every relationship is different, of course — but if you recognize these struggles in your own Virgo-Cancer romance, take heart in knowing that it’s not a death sentence for the love affair. With a little patience, any differences between these two can definitely be overcome.
The Cancer-Virgo Relationship: An Ideal Love Match?
While these two signs are clearly set up for success on the basis of their shared values, success isn’t guaranteed — then again, that’s true for every relationship, no matter how compatible your two signs are. The best way to make this relationship work is taking extra time to really express appreciation for each other. Everyone loves being appreciated for who they are: Virgos hope to be admired for being detail-oriented and practical, and Cancers want to be known as artistic and thoughtful companions. Showing that you whole-heartedly understand the other person in this relationship, and love them for who they are, is the key to making this bond go the distance — whether that be in friendship or as life partners. So, if you’re a Virgo thinking about befriending a Cancer, or vice versa, here’s your daily horoscope: Go for it! You never know — it might just become one of the most special relationships you’ve ever had.