Even at the best of times, living on your own can be difficult, but especially now, there are many of us struggling with loneliness.
First, it’s important to realize you aren’t alone with these feelings, there are many lonely people. According to npr.org, three in five American adults said they had experienced feelings of social isolation during lockdown. But not to worry — even in these circumstances, there are many ways to help beat feelings of loneliness.
It can be tempting, and a whole lot easier, to just keep to yourself, and many of us worry about being a burden or simply feel embarrassed that we’re by ourselves. But reaching out to the people around you could have a real positive impact on your mental health.
“Loneliness is not a pleasant feeling but it is very common — particularly if you have recently experienced a life transition such as a relationship breakdown, bereavement, or retirement,” says Amy Perrin from loneliness support charity, The Marmalade Trust.
Make friends with your neighbors.
The best place to start when making friends is often at home, so it’s a good idea to first get friendly with your neighbors. “Reach out and say hello, or take something to a neighbor. Are you a baker? Take a cake or Invite someone for a socially distanced cup of tea in your garden.
“You could even ask for help with something — taking garbage out, etc — it can be a good way to strike up a conversation (and people usually like to feel helpful).”
After all, this is over, it’s likely that people will want to come together more than ever, so why not organize yourself a block party?
“Block parties don’t take much organizing, most councils have easy ways to close the road and few notes in neighbors door to inform the time and day and what to bring. Even in times of socially distancing, it can be a great way to get to meet everyone. Just be aware of your safety when getting more familiar with your neighbors — they should NOT charge you for getting shopping, putting garbage out, or any other tasks. Speak to a trusted friend or family member if this is happening.”
Volunteering in your community is a great way to feel useful and meet new people says, Amy. “Some organizations are set up to support older people in volunteering, such as charities like RSVP.
“Do you have a skill that could be put to use? For example, if you know a thing or two about accountancy, could you be a treasurer? Or do you like to chat? Could you be a telephone befriender and support someone who is feeling very isolated?”
There are so many online groups and clubs that exist on social media, and you might find that many more have popped up because of the pandemic. Start by using a search engine like Google to search for online communities of like-minded people who might be feeling lonely too.
“There are also platforms that you can use to stay in contact with friends and family, such as Facebook and WhatsApp. On most of these platforms you can use video calling, which is another great way to ‘see’ friends and family from a distance, whether you’re still isolating, or they live far away.”
You can also make friends in the real world too, through online groups such as www.meetup.com where you can find out all about events and clubs in your local area. Whether you’re passionate about walking, crafts, reading, or anything in between, you’re sure to meet like-minded people.
Get out and about.
Some shops and attractions may still be closed at the minute, but nature isn’t. Head outdoors and you’ll be amazed at how many families, dog walkers, and individuals are getting a bit of fresh air and improve your physical health. These people are generally much more open to chatting with strangers — say a friendly hello and get a conversation going.
“There are many opportunities at the moment to spark up a conversation with strangers,” says Amy. “For instance. in the queue for the supermarket. Whilst socially distanced, you can strike up a conversation with someone in the queue — talk about the weather! Give someone a compliment (I love your dress!) Small opening comments can get people chatting.”
“If you can, shop local – often smaller shops and grocery stores will have similar people working there and it can be easier to have regular conversations and build up friendships. If you can, avoid self-service checkouts — use the opportunity to have a chat with the shop worker whilst packing your shopping.”
Make virtual friends.
“Everyone is different! Do what suits you best. Do you want to call on the telephone? Or see each other in your own environment using video calling or maybe emailing suits you better?
“Get to know each other – ask each other questions to find out more about each other – where did you go to school, do you have any pets, what music do you like. Find a convenient time to catch up – so that all parties are not distracted and have time to chat.”
Reach out and talk to friends and family about how you would like to make some new friends. They might be able to help make some suggestions.
Remember, if you feel like your health and wellbeing are being affected by loneliness, it is important to discuss this with a health professional, who will be able to give you more support and advice.
This article originally appeared on our sister site, Yours.