Why More Couples Are Planning an ‘Airport Divorce’ to Survive Holiday Travel Stress
Splitting up at the airport? Find out why this viral trend can actually help save a relationship
You know that feeling when you and your partner have completely different airport vibes and it leads to extra tension? Well, there’s a brilliant solution making waves. Many couples are now considering an “airport divorce” for their next trip, and even morning show host Kelly Ripa has teased she’s on board. So what is an airport divorce exactly? Keep reading to learn more about the unique approach to traveling as a couple and find out why experts say it could actually be beneficial for your relationship.
What is an ‘airport divorce’?
Back in August, a British travel journalist coined the amusing term in an article discussing how he and his fiancée split up during their travels together. Despite the dramatic name, an airport divorce is actually simple—and surprisingly sensible.
The split is not within the relationship itself but rather the time spent waiting at the airport. As the writer described, the two part ways after they pass through security, then reunite an hour later on the plane. It has led to a more harmonious travel experience for the couple with each individual taking some time for themselves during the period before boarding.
“An ‘airport divorce’ can be very appealing for some couples—traveling can be such a stressful time with lots of anxiety-inducing conditions like the anticipation of seeing family members one hasn’t seen in a long time, crowds of people, long lines, delays, cancellations and restless children,” explains therapist Roger Rhoades, a psychologist with extensive experience in relationship counseling.
With everyone buzzing about this trend, it’s possible more couples might start to give it a try during their next trip.
Kelly Ripa and Mark Consuelos discuss their travel style differences
While the idea may be tempting for some couples, others aren’t quite sure what to make of the trend. In an October episode of Live with Kelly and Mark, Ripa and Mark Consuelos discussed this approach to travel, with Ripa pointing out that she and her husband have very different traveling styles.
She recalled one particular incident where tensions ran high in the security line after Consuelos was unable to use his TSA PreCheck. Though Ripa waited with him, the experience still proved to be stressful.
“The line was too slow and he got irritated with me!” Ripa shared. “And I said, ‘No no no, this isn’t the part where you’re irritated with me because the line is too long. This is the part where you say, ‘Thank you honey, I’m sorry that I’m making you wait in this line.’”
Consuelos added that he had a different perspective, which certainly illustrated that each of them has a contrasting travel routine and stress level.
“The airport divorce is what we are definitely getting,” Ripa even joked at one point.
How an ‘airport divorce’ can benefit your relationship
While the term may have a negative connotation, there are actually some benefits to taking this approach. In fact, an “airport divorce” could actually lead to a more positive travel experience for some couples.
“It reduces a potential element of strife—sometimes the best way to prevent conflicts is to avoid them,” says Rhoades. “Couples deciding in advance to separate during travel has proven to help couples avoid arguments and avoid making potentially stressful conditions even more stressful.”
This is especially true during peak travel times when crowds are large, lines are long and delays are common. All of those elements can be anxiety-inducing and lead to bickering that could negatively impact the mood long after the airport-portion of the trip is over.
But taking that time to separate and focus on your own emotions ensures the time you are spending together is quality time, adds Rhoades. Think of it as individual self-care that can improve your overall bond!
Other ways to reduce holiday travel stress as a couple
While some people love a getaway, others may get overwhelmed during travel. If you and your partner are on these opposite ends of the spectrum, there are some other ways you can ensure a smooth experience even if you don’t try an “airport divorce.”
The first? Discuss your wants, needs and concerns ahead of your trip to help get on the same page.
“When a couple is able to write out their expectations for the trip, it helps make any potential conflict much more manageable,” suggests Rhoades.
Even if you have different preferences, it will help you figure out a plan that works for both of you—before you’re in the middle of an airport argument.
Also smart: “Expect the unexpected, pack comfort food and provide electronic stimulation for children,” he adds. “Schedule time outs and have contingency plans if there are delays or cancellations.”
Whether you opt for a little time apart pre-flight or come with an agreed-upon plan of action, you can enjoy a stress-free travel experience together!
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