Whether you've been married for months or decades, it's quite likely that you already have your own little tips and tricks for sorting out the squabbles and keeping your relationship strong. But now a new study has pinned down the top things that British folks have found to work time and time again for a happy and healthy marriage.
Researchers polled 2,000 happily married Brits and found that alongside honesty and compromise, having two TVs, two cars, two toilets or bathrooms, and at least one night a week away from computers or tablets all helps. Getting along with each other’s friends and family and keeping separate bank accounts also featured high up in the top 50 secrets.
Blissful couples say trust, remembering important dates (like your anniversary) and saying "I love you" often also helps keep a relationship harmonious. This is all backed up by regular cuddles, always kissing each other goodnight and in the morning before you leave the house, along with the occasional romantic gesture, like a restaurant meal out or "date" night.
But extravagant romantic moves and expensive presents don't always pay off, it seems. For less than one in ten of the couples surveyed want the traditional flowers and chocolates, with 29 percent just wanting a little surprise from their partner every now and then.
And to keep the number of "domestics" down? The happy couples surveyed suggested not hogging the remote and having two TVs in the house to avoid any clashes over what to watch on the box.
Here's a full run-down of the the top 50 secrets to a happy marriage. Do you agree? Are there any tips and tricks they've missed off the list?
Trusting each other
Having the same sense of humor
Always being honest with each other
Remembering birthdays and anniversaries
Accepting each other’s faults
Saying "I love you" regularly
Knowing when to say sorry
Being able to laugh at each other
Having a similar outlook on life
Regular hugs and cuddles
Always kissing each other goodnight
The occasional romantic gesture
Considering your partner to be your best friend
Sharing the parenting duties
Always kissing each other goodbye in the mornings
Having some shared hobbies and interests
Always talking about a problem rather than bottling it up
Asking your partner about their day
Having some different hobbies and interests
Knowing when to give each other some space
Never going to sleep on an argument
Regular holidays and mini breaks
Having similar aims and ambitions
Having the odd argument or disagreement
Continuing to make an effort to look nice for your partner
Getting along with each other’s family
Setting aside quality time for each other
Holding hands when you are out and about
Regularly complimenting each other
Having your own friends as well as mutual friends
Two TVs in the house
Getting along with each other’s friends
Each having a car
Still shaving and grooming — making an effort to look good
Each having equal share of the lie-ins (a long stay in bed in the morning) when you have children
Separate bank accounts
Having regular nights out with friends, without your partner
Surprise gifts and presents
Not being friends with any ex-partners on Facebook and other social media sites
A rota (rotation of duties) to divide up the household chores
Regular date nights
Two bathrooms or toilets
Not having one person hogging the remote control
Similar working hours
Knowing each other’s passcode for their phone
A secret stash of cash they know nothing about
Keeping some things private (not going to the toilet in front of each other etc)
A night or two a week where neither of you use your computers or phones
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